A successful marriage

After writing my weekly musings for the best part of a decade, I now find the Wednesday morning ritual a cathartic experience.

I often explain to readers I meet around the country that I rarely set out with a subject in mind but the words seem to flow together to create something readable. Other times I am rather clear in my objective.

Today it is the latter; today I want to write about tomorrow.

Tomorrow marks the 21st anniversary of my marriage to Sinead. As luck would have it, last night we both attended a pro-marriage rally in the very place that our wedding reception was held all those years ago. It brought back a flood of happy memories and reminded me how blessed I have been in the years since.

Speaking at Adelaide No event for Marriage

It also reminded me that the best memories aren’t about the things you have but the experiences you share.

Like a lot of newly married couples, we didn’t have a lot of spare money or resources. Our ‘night out’ was often a Friday post-work pizza in the park with a longneck of beer for me and perhaps an inexpensive bubbly for Sinead. Later, that ritual continued when our children were born as they played on the slides and seesaws.

Today I guess we would be banned from such a simple pleasure because it would all be declared a dry zone or pizza could be deemed an obesity hazard!

Things have certainly come a long way since then. One of our boys is now an adult and the other not far behind. Sinead and I no longer share a car but I still walk to work (in Canberra at least) just like I did all those years ago. Sinead hasn’t aged a bit and is still the best person I know although I’m not sure she could say the same about me!

Over the years we have faced any number of personal and public challenges. However, every single one of them was made easier because they we faced them together. Our very different personal strengths and qualities complement each other to build a formidable team that gave us the strength to cope with any circumstance.

That complementarity was also instrumental in the development of the two fine sons whom we are both very proud of. They have their father’s resilience (and a bit of his spirit too) and their mother’s wisdom. Given the amount of time that I have spent away from home over the past eleven years I often say that Sinead deserves all the credit, although there is no question as to where they learned their BBQ skills from!

Of course, my meandering reflection on marriage today is a personal indulgence. But then again this column has always been about more than politics. Sometimes it’s a reminder about what is really important in life.

Pictured: Senator Bernardi speaking at the No campaign event on the marriage survey, at the Adelaide Town Hall, Tuesday 19 September 2017

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  • commented 2017-10-01 14:02:18 +1030
    Sorry for the late reply Cory, have been busy and don’t always get to my emails. Congrats to you and Sinead on your 21st wedding anniversary. I have been married for 31 years and I, as you deem my wife to be the strength of our marriage. We also have to boy (twins) now 30 years old and Mandy and I are so very proud of them. The only thing that I ever asked of them was to grow into decent men, treat women right and treat other people as you would like to be treated and that is exactly what they grew into fine upstanding men, they have never been out of work nor have they ever been on the dole. This is the sort of man that you come across as to me Cory, a decent bloke with down to earth decent values and a the sort of bloke that Australia needs. Keep up the good work mate.
  • commented 2017-09-28 04:30:02 +0930
    I understnd the desire of homosexual couple to be recognised, in particular when they need to represent each other in situations like hospitals where only a family member has some rights.
    But the needed protected civil union cannot be called marriage because of some legal instrument forced by widespread propaganda.
    MORE IMPORTANTLY REDEFINITION OF MARRIAGE IS UN-CONSTITUTIONAL

    Firstly, changing the meaning of traditional terms by law is risky like changing the meaning of Sunday to Tuesday. It is still Sunday.

    The re-definition of marriage cannot be done legally with the current constitution.
    It says:
    The Parliament shall, subject to this Constitution, have power12 to make laws for the peace, order, and good government of the Commonwealth with respect to:

    xxi) marriage;

    1. Marriage is not defined in the constitution therefore the legislator referred to its meaning at the time the constitution has been approved.
    CHANGING THE MEANING OF TERMS USED IN THE CONSTITUTION IS AN IMPLICIT CHANGE OF THE CONSTITUTION WITHOUT THE PRESCRIBED LEGAL PROCESS.
    example:
    The term “general election” is not defined in the constitution.
    Imagine we re-define it as a “free gathering of army generals with the intention to elect the parliament” because generals want so.

    2.The Marriage Act follows the constitution by stating what was meant by marriage under the heading: 5 Interpretations

    marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion
    of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.

    This statement INTERPRETS what was meant by the constitution when it was passed.
    YOU CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST BY LAW.

    Where legal acts of the Commonwealth Define something, it appears under the heading Definitions
    Take look at Migration Act 1958 where sections Interpretation and Definitions intermittently appear.

    As for equality, the Australian constitution does not give any rights to be equal. Sad but true.
  • commented 2017-09-27 19:04:28 +0930
    Of course, even heterosexual marriage equality is a myth, it is denied many people, for it is one of those things that needs the permission of at least one other person.

    The number of those people far exceed the estimated 3% of people who identify as homosexual (let alone homosexuals who wish to marry), and yet we see and hear nothing about them from our politicians or the MSM.
  • commented 2017-09-21 15:49:53 +0930
    Out 60th anniversary comes on 12th April next, Cory. Take our word: It only gets better. Our eldest gt. grandaughter is 17 yrs old so if we just live a bit longer. . ? ? ?
  • commented 2017-09-21 11:02:52 +0930
    We the silent majority admire great leaders who lead by example. And this very human story shows that you are both ~ human and leading by example. I’m so proud I jumped when you jumped but sad for the once great Liberal party which has lost its way. Keep strong and know you have our support for this big effort you have proudly stepped up for. You and Sinead are exactly what Australia needs. Thank you both.
  • commented 2017-09-20 19:14:00 +0930
    Congratulations Sinead and Cory.
    What a lovely tribute to your wife and family. Sinead’s are special as I have one too.
    Keep up the good work. Thankyou. Here’s to many more happy years.
  • commented 2017-09-20 14:28:00 +0930
    Congratulations to both of you Cory and Sinead, on your 21st anniversary. I am so pleased that I made the decision, very early, to get on board and support you and the Australian Conservatives. Please keep up the great work, this country needs you and many more like you.
  • commented 2017-09-20 14:16:30 +0930
    Congratulations to you both. You are a fine example to so many young Australians. Your weekly newsletter is always spot on and interesting. Keep up the great work Corey. We need our leaders to have intestinal fortitude and common sense along with the ability to get things done.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:50:52 +0930
    “the best memories aren’t about the things you have but the experiences you share”.

    It is very easy to confuse materialism with capitalism.

    However the politics of socialism is not about the rejection of materialism – quite the reverse. It is about those who don’t want to work, coveting the possessions of those who do.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:50:46 +0930
    Hi Corey.
    I am a Conservative and will be voting NO in the Marriage Equality Poll.
    Keep up the good work.
    Australia needs MORE Politicians like you.
    We want OUR country back again.
    Look at the mess Europe is in thanks to LEFT wing Politicians.
    I do not want to see that happen here for the sake of my children and grand children.
    Regards.
    Graeme.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:50:20 +0930
    I wish to comment of the Victorian Government’s brave step to introduce a Assisted Euthanasia Bill. I am a cancer patient myself with a probable terminal diagnosis, I would welcome this bill Australia wide. Too many people die under intolerable circumstances or kill themselves because of unmanaged pain. I would hope as a conservative politician you would support this bill for all Australians. Please let us know your views on this.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:41:58 +0930
    Cory: Beautifully said as usual, but even better because of the personal reflections and openness.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:39:41 +0930
    Is this just coincidence we are now in the process of the ABS postal survey on homosexual marriage?
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:34:44 +0930
    Bless you and your Wife and may you see another 21 years together
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:34:26 +0930
    George Gault is it not wonderful to hear about Man Women Marriage when all about us are dead set on destroying this wonderful union, Good on you Cory Sinead
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:19:18 +0930
    Thanks for sharing about your family. God bless!
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:18:45 +0930
    Beautifully said, and so often in politics the wife or partner is often overlooked but the sacrifices that partners make when their partner decides to enter the cut throat business that is politics is also overlooked. SO I say to Sinead have an extra glass of bubbly tonight to celebrate your 21 years of marriage and your contribution to making one of our best politicians who he is today.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:15:27 +0930
    Cory
    Thanks for taking a stand for common sense. Australia needs politicians who stand by REAL TRUTH, Godly values, but who also will come out and call a spade a spade.Fear binds ppl up. Australia needs leaders to face fear head on to help bring this nation back to its Godly roots. You need us Christians praying for you to stand. Our enemy is not ppl but evil trying to bring our nation down. Now is not a time to be weak but to stand and having stood to stand. God bless.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:12:38 +0930
    Happy Anniversary Cory and Sinead. I always look forward to your weekly dose of common
    sense.
  • commented 2017-09-20 13:12:35 +0930
    Congratulations and best wishes to you and your wife on the occasion of your 21st wedding anniversary! Cory, you’re doing a great job and it’s great to see the Australian Conservatives powering ahead.
  • commented 2017-09-20 12:56:38 +0930
    Dear Cory, I would simply like to take the time to say how grateful I and my family are that you have chosen the path you have and speak out about the real issues that need our attention. Just as Donald Trump didn’t need to step up to the plate, neither did you, but you did. It shows the true Australian character of standing up for what you believe in. I could go on and on with praise but I think you understand where I am coming from. Keep up the good fight and never forget the real Australians are with you. Again, thank you for your efforts and God bless..
  • commented 2017-09-20 12:47:20 +0930
    Excuse slip on name Cory!!
  • commented 2017-09-20 12:46:45 +0930
    Hi Bernard,
    I would hope you will nominate for a lower house seat. I think the Conservative Party could be the alternative that many are seeking. It could be a lot bigger than you might think.
    A tidal wave is waiting.
    best regards
    rob b
  • commented 2017-09-20 12:40:55 +0930
    Absolutely love this. What a country we would have if all our politicians had such a set of values . Happy Anniversary to you both 💕💕
  • commented 2017-09-20 12:38:39 +0930
    Congratulations Cory and Sinead on your anniversary and a beautiful story.